灵子 -- Women after 40

Women after 40

Lingzi


How old are you? Will you tell me your age without hesitation if you are a woman over 40?  Some of us are afraid to tell our real age.  Why? A few years ago, one of my co-workers got upset when people threw a birthday party for her when she turned 40. I am sure you have heard the phrase, "Over the Hill". I did not understand it when the first time I heard it. People explained to me that the age 40 is the top of the hill, and after the 40, life goes down hill. Is being 40 years old that bad? Is there really a hill? I am 42 now.  How come I am not feeling my life going down hill already? In my dictionary, the age 40 is just as beautiful as the age 20, or is just as beautiful as 60 or 80.  Age is just a number, a counter of life span.  

Here is a story I would like to share with you:

Two weeks ago, I watched an Oprah Winfred Show.  Oprah brought a lady named Evonne to the stage. Oprah asked the audience to guess how old Evonne was.  The audience just randomly guessed between 35 and 50.  Actually Evonne is 70 years old this year. When Evonne goes out with her 50-year-old son, people think she's his date!  Evonne takes care of herself by exercising right, eating right, and she has one secret she shared with the audience. The secret is moisturizing.  She moisturizes everyday. We should start to do it too, hmm?   One thing Evonne is doing right is taking care of herself.  

Another lady is Marcia.  When Marcia was a little girl, she was crazy about horses.  She lived in the city, so she never could get her own horse.  In her mid-40s, Marcia decided to reshape her life;  she packed up and moved to Austin, Texas. She bought her first horse just before her 47th birthday and she got her Bachelor's degree at age 50. Marcia even turned her love of horses into a business. She looks beautiful and young.  Marcia says that things that keep her looking young are her attitude and the fact that she is doing what she loves to do. She followed her dream. We need to follow our dream, don’t we? We need to do something we enjoy.

How can we live a beautiful life and have a young heart? I was thinking over and over.

First, a caring and loving heart. With that, we admire people around us, we help the people who need help, and we accept people who even made mistakes.

At the age of 40, most women are somebody’s wife, somebody’s mom, somebody’s daughter, somebody’s sister, or somebody’s friend.  We play many roles, and we have a lot of responsibilities. One key role we sometimes forget is caring for ourselves.

So secondly, we owe ourselves the responsibility to take care of ourselves. If we don’t, how is that possible we can be strong enough to take care of others?


The third, a hobby or a special talent you enjoy. You are passionate about it and love to do it even when you are alone. Some people like to sing, dancing, reading, music and sports, anything you have fun with it.

The last and foremost is friendship. The real friends are always there for you no matter if you are up or down. They cheer you up, and comfort you or even remind or alert you when they think necessary.

You can see I am expecting for my third baby now. Things are not flexible as before; however, I still try to get many activities as possible. Besides my full time work, and the care of my two young daughters, I enjoy singing, dancing, writing and many more other activities, See, I came tonight to give a speech since I did not want to miss this opportunity to share my thought with you. Some people asked my age when they saw I am expecting, I always happily tell them that I am 42 years, and still expecting the baby, and still expecting many other beautiful things in my life.  

Monday and Tuesday this week was winter break for Northville school district. I took two days off and with girls. We had a blasted time together. We planned to go out for lunch, movie and sledding. The most sparkling time on that day was when I watched the girls go sledding from the top of the hill.  They screamed with joy.  I can not sled with my current shape, so I sat in my car comfortably, with soft jazz music on. Through the window, I could see the girls flying on their sleds with a beautiful white snow background, the sunshine was reflecting into my car. I also could feel the kicking from my tummy. That moment, with seeing kids flying, music, sun and kicking, I felt great! I felt life was just precious, I am very thankful for everything I have.

Even though I am over 40, I do not think I am over the hill yet. If there is a hill, the top must be at the front door to heaven.  We can not predict when God will take us. But before that, life should be always going up hill. <<Woman after 40>>  should not even be a topic, since there is no boundary anywhere. My friends, that is my real thought.  Let’s open our eyes and hearts to see beautiful world around us, enjoy our beautiful and precious life in any moment.

四十岁后的女人



如果你是一个四十岁以上的女人,你会无所顾忌地告诉别人你的年纪吗?我们中间有些人是不会的。为什么呢?几年前我的一个同事竟然很沮丧当大家给她开四十岁生日聚会。我想你可能听说过:“过了山顶” 一说。第一次听到时,我并不懂它的含义。朋友解释说,四十岁就是山顶,过了四十,生命就开始走下坡路了。四十岁真的那么糟糕吗?真的有座山吗?我已过了四十了,怎么没有下山的感觉呢?在我的字典里,"四十"和"二十"是一样美丽的;或者说"四十"和"六十"、"八十"一样具有意义和美丽的。年纪只是一个记载我们生命的数据,难道不是吗?

两星期前,我无意中观看到Oprah Winfred主持的电视剧。Oprah 在台上首先介绍了一位嘉宾Evonne,让观众猜她的年纪。大家估计Evonne 在三十五到五十之间。实际上,Evonne 今年七十岁,当Evonne 和她五十岁的儿子一起散步的时候,人们认为他和她是约会的伴侣!Evonne 的养生之道在于吃得营养健康和坚持锻炼。她说还有个秘密就是每天都需要均匀地涂上护肤品。我们也应该开始这么做,对吧?  Evonne 做的很正确的一件事就是照顾好自己。

还有一位嘉宾Marcia。 Marcia小时候就非常地喜欢马,但是她住在城市,没有机会养马。四十多岁的时候,Marcia决定换个活法。她一鼓作气地搬家去了德克萨斯州。Marcia在四十七岁生日前买了第一匹马,五十岁的时候拿到了本科学位。Marcia对马的爱好还让她有机会发展了自己成功的生意。Marcia其实已有五十五岁了,但她看起来年轻又漂亮。 Marcia在台上说她永保青春的秘密是对生活的态度,还有就是她做她喜爱的事。Marcia圆了儿时的梦,实现了自己的理想。

那么怎样才能保持一颗年轻的心,活得美丽、潇洒呢?我反复地思考着。。。

首先,我们需要一颗爱心。有了这颗爱心,我们会去赞美周围的人,也会去帮助那些需要帮助的人,并且我们会接受和原谅那些有错或者伤害了我们的人。

四十岁的女人往往已是为人妻,为人母。上有老,下有小,还有工作。身上的担子不轻,不过常常我们会忘了自己。

所以,第二,我们欠自己一个重担,就是照顾好自己,像Evonne一样。否则,我们怎会强壮得有能力去照顾别人呢?心有余而力不足的主妇有什么用呢?

第三,我们每人都需要一个爱好。你非常地热爱。即使独处,你也会热情高涨地去做的一件事。有的人爱好唱歌、跳舞、阅读、音乐、运动。。。只要你喜欢的都可以。

最后一项但非常重要的就是友谊。真正的朋友会在你身边无论你处境如何。她们会祝贺你,安慰你。也会在关键的时候提醒你。

爱心,能力照顾自己,爱好,朋友。。。如果你缺少的话,努力拥有吧。

你们可以看出我已是七个月的身孕了,等待着第三个孩子的出生。举手抬足没有以往那么灵便了。不过,我还是尽力参加许多活动。除了每天的工作和照顾两个女儿以外,我喜欢唱歌、跳舞(孕妇拉丁舞) 、写作和其它一些活动。你瞧,我今晚来参加演讲比赛,就是不想错过这个机会来分享我的观点。有人看见我挺个肚子就问我多大了。我总是笑迷迷地告诉他们:“我已42啦,仍然期望着新生命的到来,仍然期望着许多其它美丽的事情发生。”

这个星期女儿们放了两天冬假。我特地请了两天假陪她们。我们把两天时间安排的满满的,一起出去吃中饭,电影,滑雪板滑雪。这两天的时间过得真快,和女儿们在一起快乐无比。那一天最难忘的时刻是看见孩子们从山顶上滑下来,她们快乐得大声喊叫。我目前的体型是不能滑雪的。 我舒服地斜靠在车里,欣赏着轻柔的爵士音乐。通过车窗,我可以看见女儿们在雪白洁净的山坡上飞滑下来,太阳光慷慨地从车窗外洒进来。不时地,我可以感觉怀里的小生命的移动。那个瞬间,远处孩子们的飞滑和嘻笑,音乐,阳光还有肚子里的胎动,让我真满足,感觉好极了!我仔细体会着生活的美丽和珍贵。我非常感恩我生活中拥有的一切。

虽然我已过四十,却没有下山的感觉。如果有座山,山顶不是在四十岁,而是在通向天国的前门。我们不能预测上帝什么时候会领我们去天国,在那之前,生活之路应该是永远地向上。 <<四十后的女人>>不应该是一个话题,因为那从来就不是一个界线。亲爱的朋友,这就是我今天想和大家分享的真实想法。让我们睁开双眼欣赏这美丽的世界,让我们敞开心怀去珍惜生命的每一个瞬间。



[ 本帖最后由 Lingzi 于 2007-2-27 07:50 AM 编辑 ]
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这是我昨晚的一篇演讲稿。(Toastmaster club speech contest). 白雪领导让我录音,临时忘了录音机。下次补上。



灵子讲的好感人,能贴出汉语版本吗?

[ 本帖最后由 白雪 于 2007-2-23 05:16 PM 编辑 ]



灵子,写得好。很有同感。

(白雪:你的回复中有一别字:将-〉讲)



回复 #4 心怡 的帖子
谢谢心怡,改过了。近来你们二百五村里有什么新人新事啊?



灵子讲的真好!

记得偶40岁时写过篇“不惑的青春”,感觉on the top of the hill是最光彩的年华。不过其后也有后来的enjoy。偶觉得咱中国对年龄的形容更恰当:三十而立,四十而不惑,五十字天命,六十而耳顺.......



谢白雪。我试翻过来吧。演讲比赛只能在五到七分钟内,否则取消资格。挺有意思的,我挺著个大肚子,可能把老美吓一跳。捧了个二等奖杯回来。

QUOTE:
原帖由 白雪 于 2007-2-23 12:58 PM 发表
灵子讲的好感人,能贴出汉语版本吗?





回复 #4 心怡 的帖子
谢谢心怡,我是深有感触才参赛的。



谢楼兰,我非常喜欢你的文章。想像中的你是有思想,有才华,敢说敢干的才女。

QUOTE:
原帖由 楼兰 于 2007-2-23 06:03 PM 发表
灵子讲的真好!

记得偶40岁时写过篇“不惑的青春”,感觉on the top of the hill是最光彩的年华。不过其后也有后来的enjoy。偶觉得咱中国对年龄的形容更恰当:三十而立,四十而不惑,五十字天命,六十而耳顺 ...







QUOTE:
原帖由 Lingzi 于 2007-2-23 07:14 PM 发表
谢白雪。我试翻过来吧。演讲比赛只能在五到七分钟内,否则取消资格。挺有意思的,我挺著个大肚子,可能把老美吓一跳。捧了个二等奖杯回来。


更了不起啦。赶紧拍照留念,将来给BABY看奖杯和妈妈照片,有纪念意义哈。



回复 #7 Lingzi 的帖子
让偶们看看你的奖杯行不行?祝贺!



回复 #5 白雪 的帖子
俺就是怕领导提这事。这不,春节才过,就来检查了。





QUOTE:
原帖由 Lingzi 于 2007-2-23 07:14 PM 发表
谢白雪。我试翻过来吧。演讲比赛只能在五到七分钟内,否则取消资格。挺有意思的,我挺著个大肚子,可能把老美吓一跳。捧了个二等奖杯回来。

伟大,佩服! 咱北美女人姐妹个个是好样的。照片文章一起贴吧,很有意义。





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原帖由 心怡 于 2007-2-23 10:13 PM 发表
俺就是怕领导提这事。这不,春节才过,就来检查了。

搞个运动啥D,把地主富农都拉出来溜溜。



"Let’s open our eyes and hearts to see beautiful world around us, enjoy our beautiful and precious life in any moment."  ---- I'll "Amen!" to that any time!
Outstanding speech!



“Age is a just a number, a counter of life span.” ------delete the “a” before “just”
“Oprah brought a lady named Evonne to the stage(,)” ------should use period, not comma
“Evonne takes care herself”-------take care of herself
“She lived in the city so she never”------should at least add (,) before “so”
“In the mid of 40s”------better be “in her mid-40s”
“Marcia says the things that keep”-------should be “Marcia says that things that keep”
“So the second”-----delete “the” or you can use firstly, secondly and thirdly.
“like to sing, dance, reading, music, sports,”------should be “like singing, dancing, reading, music, sports.”
“even reminder or alert you when they think need to.”-----should use “remind” as a verb, not “reminder”, which is a noun; and better change “need to” into “necessary”
should use semicolon ( before “however”
“Besides my full time work, two young daughters, I enjoy singing, dance, and writing,”-----should be “Besides my full time work and the care of my two young daughters, I enjoy singing, dancing, and writing,”
“planed”----should be spelt as “planned”

I might overlook some other mistakes. sorry.



Thank you very much for editing.  I only used it for my speech draft. It helped me organize my thoughts when I talk. I should have paid more attention before I posted it on the site.

QUOTE:
原帖由 海外逸士 于 2007-2-24 10:26 AM 发表
“Age is a just a number, a counter of life span.” ------delete the “a” before “just”
“Oprah brought a lady named Evonne to the stage(,)” ------should use period, not comma
“Evonne take ...





佩服!

祝贺!

等看PP!



四十岁后的女人




如果你是一个四十岁以上的女人,你会无所顾忌地告诉别人你的年纪吗?我们中间有些人是不会的。为什么呢?几年前我的一个同事竟然很沮丧当大家给她开四十岁生日聚会。我想你可能听说过:“过了山顶” 一说。第一次听到时,我并不懂它的含义。朋友解释说,四十岁就是山顶,过了四十,生命就开始走下坡路了。四十岁真的那么糟糕吗?真的有座山吗?我已过了四十了,怎么没有下山的感觉呢?在我的字典里,"四十"和"二十"是一样美丽的;或者说"四十"和"六十"、"八十"一样具有意义和美丽的。年纪只是一个记载我们生命的数据,难道不是吗?

两星期前,我无意中观看到Oprah Winfred主持的电视剧。Oprah 在台上首先介绍了一位嘉宾Evonne,让观众猜她的年纪。大家估计Evonne 在三十五到五十之间。实际上,Evonne 今年七十岁,当Evonne 和她五十岁的儿子一起散步的时候,人们认为他和她是约会的伴侣!Evonne 的养生之道在于吃得营养健康和坚持锻炼。她说还有个秘密就是每天都需要均匀地涂上护肤品。我们也应该开始这么做,对吧?  Evonne 做的很正确的一件事就是照顾好自己。

还有一位嘉宾Marcia。 Marcia小时候就非常得喜欢马,但是她住在城市,没有机会养马。四十多岁的时候,Marcia决定换个活法。她一鼓作气地搬家去了德克萨斯州。Marcia在四十七岁生日前买了第一匹马,五十岁的时候拿到了本科学位。Marcia对马的爱好还让她有机会发展了自己成功的生意。Marcia其实已有五十五岁了,但她看起来年轻又漂亮。 Marcia在台上说她永保青春的秘密是对生活的态度,还有就是她做她喜爱的事。Marcia圆了儿时的梦,实现了自己的理想。

那么怎样才能保持一颗年轻的心,活得美丽、潇洒呢?我反复地思考着。。。

首先,我们需要一颗爱心。有了这颗爱心,我们会去赞美周围的人,也会去帮助那些需要帮助的人,并且我们会接受和原谅那些有错或者伤害了我们的人。

四十岁的女人往往已是为人妻,为人母。上有老,下有小,还有工作。身上的担子不轻,不过常常我们会忘了自己。

所以,第二,我们欠自己一个重担,就是照顾好自己,像Evonne一样。否则,我们怎会强壮得有能力去照顾别人呢?心有余而力不足的主妇有什么用呢?

第三,我们每人都需要一个爱好。你非常地热爱。即使独处,你也会热情高涨地去做的一件事。有的人爱好唱歌、跳舞、阅读、音乐、运动。。。只要你喜欢的都可以。

最后一项但非常重要的就是友谊。真正的朋友会在你身边无论你处境如何。她们会祝贺你,安慰你。也会在关键的时候提醒你。

爱心,能力照顾自己,爱好,朋友。。。如果你缺少的话,努力拥有吧。

你们可以看出我已是七个月的身孕了,等待着第三个孩子的出生。举手抬足没有以往那么灵便了。不过,我还是尽力参加许多活动。除了每天的工作和照顾两个女儿以外,我喜欢唱歌、跳舞(孕妇拉丁舞) 、写作和其它一些活动。你瞧,我今晚来参加演讲比赛,就是不想错过这个机会来分享我的观点。有人看见我挺个肚子就问我多大了。我总是笑迷迷地告诉他们:“我已42啦,仍然期望着新生命的到来,仍然期望着许多其它美丽的事情发生。”

这个星期女儿们放了两天冬假。我特地请了两天假陪她们。我们把两天时间安排的满满的,一起出去吃中饭,电影,滑雪板滑雪。这两天的时间过得真快,和女儿们在一起快乐无比。那一天最难忘的时刻是看见孩子们从山顶上滑下来,她们快乐得大声喊叫。我目前的体型是不能滑雪的。 我舒服地斜靠在车里,欣赏着轻柔的爵士音乐。通过车窗,我可以看见女儿们在雪白洁净的山坡上飞滑下来,太阳光慷慨地从车窗外洒进来。不时地,我可以感觉怀里的小生命的移动。那个瞬间,远处孩子们的飞滑和嘻笑,音乐,阳光还有肚子里的胎动,让我真满足,感觉好极了!我仔细体会着生活的美丽和珍贵。我非常感恩我生活中拥有的一切。

虽然我已过四十,却没有下山的感觉。如果有座山,山顶不是在四十岁,而是在通向天国的前门。我们不能预测上帝什么时候会领我们去天国,在那之前,生活之路应该是永远地向上。 <<四十后的女人>>不应该是一个话题,因为那从来就不是一个界线。亲爱的朋友,这就是我今天想和大家分享的真实想法。让我们睁开双眼欣赏这美丽的世界,让我们敞开心怀去珍惜生命的每一个瞬间。

[ 本帖最后由 Lingzi 于 2007-2-26 10:48 PM 编辑 ]



交了作业啦。翻自己的英文稿怪怪的,感觉像老外讲中文似的。

也照了片片,忘记怎样贴啦。



好,灵子。双语写作,,真棒!






谢白雪。 这儿是片片。



哇,真漂亮,人呢?



哈,领导就让俺朦胧一回吧。



灵子好,一直很佩服你的乐观主义精神,祝贺你获奖!有你那么个快乐的妈妈,孩子也一定很快乐!

知道老三是儿子还是女儿了吗?



延伸好!  医生说是男孩。 还有一个月,希望能会早点。


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