I was very shocked and uncomfortable for how Americans being very accepting to teen/un-wed pregnancy many years ago. My classmate in my Christian graduate school shared a baby shower with me before our graduation and she was unwed. She made the mistake but she decided to keep the child. I met her again after 6 yrs and she turned to be such a mature content young lady, a very responsible mother and she married the boy's father. She also worked hard for her profession to help teens.
I know that this is a rare story. The good outcome of the story is really about her true repentance as a Christian to admit her sin and to not sin again and to take the responsibility.
To be honest, there has been this kind of cases happening in China also, not only in U.S., so as divorce. I remember two incidents of teen pregnancy happened in my neighborhood and school-the very good distinct, Xu-hui District in Shanghai in the 80's. I felt disguised and was as harsh as your attitude. Also, the kind of the incident happens in Asian/Chinese community sometimes. We know that human mistakes happen everywhere.
I am a conservative Christian. I wan to see my children learn the good value. We, as parents, need to spend more time with our children and show them authentic love and attention. We also need to take care of our own marriages so that we could demonstrate a true love relationship and intamacy so that the kids would not seek false
intimacy/attention through sex and wrong relationship. We need to implying love disciplines to the children, the key for preventing our children make mistake.
Now, as a licensed counselor working with families and teens, my perspective changed. Teen pregnancy mostly happened to those girls from dysfunctional families with distant fathers.
Everyone would make mistake. People could do lots of immoral things such as being dishonesty, cheating for taxes, hatred, greedy, stealing, lying... but we usually don't tolerate this kind of mistakes. cy because the consequence of this mistake is exposing and lasting.
The schools need to teach teens about absentee as sex education, not liberal agendas of twisted concept of family, using condos for free sex... This is the biggest mistake public schools made that they lost the Christian heritage teaching the good moral to the kids.
But, when we see pregnant teens, we need to remember that the baby is innocent and deserves to live the life. Abortion should not be suggested because life starts at the conception(Psalm 139
. There are some resources we can offer to those teens such as the option of adoption, or teen mom support systems. When mistake is already
made, we need to give those kids a chance. Love and acceptance is what we can offer but not a rejection or self righteousness. Remember, everyone makes mistake. You and I also. Whoever never committed any sin or made any mistake could cast the first stone (As Jesus showed how He forgave the prostitute when everyone was
condemning her.). Condemning those kids is not the way to resolve the issues. We should support the teens to give birth to the life.
We live in America and we see how different American kindly offer help to people in need and how forgiving they can be. Chinese are usually very unforgiving, harsh and
don't easily reach our hands to help others. There are teen pregnancy centers and other resources in the churches and communities for helping needy people in America. This world is falling and people are hurting. We see sad stories everyday on the news.
The reason why most Americans are supportive to a teen pregnant mom is not about their liberal views of free sex, but it's about their conservative value of protecting Life. They support the unborn child and the mother, not the free sex.
There is a consequencse for teen pregnancy-fatherless children. These kids have high chance getting to a cicle of dysfuntion. But, this should not be a reason to kill those
unborn babies through abortions. Life is precious and every person deserve to live their life.
We need to start in our own families to teach our children. We cannot depend on schools to teach out kids moral issues. Spend time with our children, get to know them, listen to them...